Knowledge is Power!!

 

But in real life I'm happy actually having gone the other way. As @deegenerate would tell you (Sorry, Dee) nobody does a dirty fantasy better than me, but at 50, I'm kind of glad to have got all the dirty stuff like anything to do with fucking my cousin's daughter (legal in UK) out of my system and other naughty stuff done and ticked off, but I'm an old man now....

 

I have grown and grown and grown , oh well you get the picture

 

I think everyone evolves throughout their lives. I have always been confident in myself but I know I'm much more sexually skilled now than when I was in my twenties...however I have always been willing to try anything.

 

I think I've grown. My first lover was my best friend and she was definitely the instigator in our sex life. My first man was a few years older than I. I was quite young. He called all of the shots for our entire relationship, through dating, and a rather short abusive marriage, and until near the end, I would do absolutely anything he asked, whether I wanted it or not. Since then, I've become more assertive and will go after what I want, and refuse what I don't want. I've been in 3 relationships since then and in each case, I was the one who initiated sex for the first time. I've also become more particular in who I will even go out with, much less go to bed with so I've also learned to cope with a much less active sex life than ever before.

 

I was with my first husband since I was 1 year less than I can mention. He was extremely vanilla. We rarely had sex, no toys, and lights out. He never complimented me on anything either. Maybe my cooking? If he hadn’t passed I’d probably be body shy and sexually shy until I die. My new husband has been so patient and really brought me out of my shell. To be fair, I was a proper slut in high school. My husband says it was already there. He just made it ok.

 

When I was thirty years old I found out I should not put up with a loveless and sexless marriage with a woman I had married only because she liked me, something that I found completely ununderstandable after a childhood of being bullied and ignored by the other kids. I fell in love with a woman, for the first time, and though she had no interest in me, I knew that I deserved more than that.

Later that year I met the woman who became my wife and the love of my life. She was more open to sex and liked watching porn together, from there we got inpired to have a fuck buddy for threesomes for many years. As we age our sex life has become less adventurous but she is still my great love and soul mate.

Joining this forum has made me convinced that everyone has the right to pursue his or her kinks and pleasure. Also I tried some more man-to-man encounters, though I had already started that before I had discovered the forum.

 

I don't know if I have grown sexually. Perhaps I have become more confident and less body concerned during sex.

 

I would imagine that from a woman’s point of view all men are pretty easy to please sexually because we are.

But I have learned (and therefore grown by the learning) that each woman I have been with needs to be pleased in her own special way. So to get better and better at pleasing her is like learning to play a new musical instrument. You listen to her and watch her face and let her hands guide you at first until you find ways that are even better than what she was thinking.

Also the better you get the more she is likely to start things with you.

And when a woman is in the mood she’s REALLY in the mood.

 

I used to be fairly conventional, dating guys my own age for 121 sex. Since I've passed 60 I've become a lot more adventurous. I now like fucking MUCH younger guys, probably 2/3 of my sex is now in threesomes, and I now indulge in group sex at nude parties. I've also made a number of gay fuck videos for porn sites.

 

We all change in a lot of ways as we age. No reason to believe that we wouldn't change sexually. I know my wife and I have gotten more open to different sexual adventures as we moved along through life.

 

For me it was feeling 100% self confident in my sexuality. Im there now but it took way too long to achieve. Im much clearer also now in what I want, I am happy with my choices and sexually I am a lot more spiritual.

I feel blessed to have found someone who shares my likes and outlook who I want to continue growing with.

 

Like many people here I was I'm a sexless marriage. But people deserve more than that. And I don't think there has to be any shame in it. Sex isn't the most important thing, but it is still very important.
I haveanaged over the past couple of years to explore my dominant side. Which I have loved. So have the people I have been with. Even one who was completely new to the dom/sub dynamic and I won't look back

 

I think I had the exact opposite experience. When I was younger I learned that sex was EVERYTHING and the most important part of the relationship. Lately I'm realizing it's ok to be alone, and I can take care of myself almost as well as a partner can... better, in a lot of cases.

I think I miss consistent cuddles, most of all, to be honest....

 

I would definitely say my wife and I and have grown together sexually. We have been together for 12 years. Before we were together my ex and I had a pretty open sexual relationship so that began my lifestyle. When we split and I got with my wife. I had to start all over again. It was tough having such a hunger or urge.

Over time of course my wife and I opened up about our sexual desires and urges. Luckily she was very open and supportive. We have grown together and have a more solid relationship then my ex and I ever did.

My wife and I love to experience new things together. We always say we will try anything once if we like it keep it going, if we don’t then we move on.

Its been an amazing journey for us both and we have meet and become friends with some amazing people. Wouldn’t change it for the world!

 

I'll also add that I not only suck a lot of dick, but more often than not it's a different dick I'm sucking every time. I never counted the number of dicks I've sucked and I've been sucking dick since my very early teens. I do have a couple of regulars but sometimes they bring friends with them and I always see to it that their friends leave with their dick properly sucked.

 

Oh Dee that is a complex question and I am chilling now after an arduous weekend!

May I come back to this presently?

thinskin

 

I've become kinkier and more open to other's kinks. And I've gone from heterosexual to bisexual.

 

My personal sexual growth has always seemed to be tied to the partner I am with. I have been lucky in the past and evolved a great deal since I was a snot nosed kid just out of high school. But, as always...there is much to learn. I just try to make myself available for the learning process by not backing down and exploring.