Ok I've been dating a great guy..he's like 11 years younger than me ..but it just works .. but lately he seems to be kinda bored ..just doesn't seem that into me ..think it's my age ? I know I'm a great fuck so it can't be that

 

Well fuck. If that’s you then it’s definitely not your age.

Any kinky stuff he into? Or you?

 

It's not your age. As someone who has always been with women older then me and who has since teen yrs been attracted to much older women i assure you it's not ur age. Pm if u care to chat deeper about why

 

I can't say for certain without knowing what he's like, but I kind of relate. My last relationship ended in disaster because my partner thought I was less interested, bored, unattracted to her. That came a little later, but her insecurities really stressed me out, pushed me away from my feelings for her. Every single tiny flaw was grating, I grew to dislike her, I just wanted to be away from her.

When she would tell me that I WAS bored with her or uninterested with her it created dissonance in the relationship. I didn't think anything had changed, I like to be alone a lot, and when I'm focused on something I tend to ignore others around me, but it had nothing to do with her, until of course she made it about her, and then she became a part of it. I felt like I wasn't respected or believed when I told her how I felt, and then she held it against me once I started to feel that way after she kept pestering me.

Don't project your insecurities onto your partner, and I'm not talking about being insecure in general. That's totally fine. Everyone is insecure about something.

What I'm talking about is INSISTING that the thing you're insecure about is what your partner is taking issue with. It creates dissonance in the relationship, it desyncronizes the partnership, and fosters further dysfunction.

My biggest piece of advice to you is to observe what he is interested in, find something he's passionate about, and that you're interested in, and learn that interest. If you're already doing that. Good on ya.

 

Next time you blow him stick a finger or two in his ass. Little things like that can spice up your sex life. Just start off gently before you go knuckle deep. I wish you all the best with everything

 

Could it be that you just have a higher sex drive than he does? So it kinda makes you feel like he’s not into you or pushing you away? What’s making you feel that way? You haven’t really explained. Other than he’s been boring and doesn’t seem that into you. I wonder why you think your age is a problem or factor.

 

Conversation is a great way to start and explore how you BOTH enjoy being with each other.
I really hate to tell you this but sex is not everything. (Just 90%)
I really don't care if they are 20 years older or 20 years older,
I could give one hundred suggestions but you BOTH have to be on the same page.
(Also you should post this in sexuality even if you posted a really great discussion point.. Thanks)

 

Talk to him or just try something different to spice it up a little

 

You might have just been a fetish he wanted to try out.
If the main reason he was attracted to you was the age difference, that’s probably worn off by now.

 

Now that could be true

 

So he is around 30? Maybe he thinks you guys are moving too fast and doesn't know how to say it.
I dated an older women before and the sex was amazing however she was moving fast, til this day I wish I could have kept her.
Good luck!

 

Wear some sexy undies, make him a photo book, invite a friend over.

 

Communication is key. Talk to him, let him know your concerns. My wife and I have been 23 years. She is 13 years older than me. This was the 3rd marriage for both of us. We literally covered just about everything as far as what could happen as the years passed. With the age difference chances were that I may the one taking care of her later on. It turned out to be a stroke about 6 years ago that she suffered. She doesn't get around as well as before but we're still going strong. We decided at the start "my rule" that if she ever wants to argue, let me know when she's finished. I'll be outside. We've never had more than a slight raise of voices since we "I Do'd" it up. Maybe too much info I guess. I just wanted to show that it can work. She calls me a dumbass on the regular, but only because I am also making sure that my Dumbassinator serviced and ready to roll. I keep things alive, never a dull moment. It takes two, so never stop talking and having fun.

 

Some guys get bored when they're with the same woman, whoever she is, and prefer being single. Then there are guys like me, who love being in a relationship with one woman. Maybe he's just the first kind of guy.

PS: if his attraction to older women has somehow worn off, that is also very different from the way I'm wired

 

Spice it up, get a thought in his head. Get his primary brain working. Tell him some other guy approached you and wants to fuck you. You don't have to do it, just make him think about it. Watch the results.

 

Im not a man but Sis, i gotta chime in here.

Dont try to please him and get his attention again. Its a rabbit hole youll never escape.
Let him fade away if thats where he wants to be. Its not you.
Theres plenty of other men out there. They come in all ages, shapes, sizes, and colors.

 

I say you find yourself another guy then set up a time to get it on with your BF. Tie him up and invite the other over and make him watch someone else enjoy your body. After you finish ask him if he's still interested if not others are. Pretty simple and good way to open up the relationship. Easy way to find out if he's serious about you.

Just some advice course my advice can be a bit off at times.

Maby not do that more I think about it.
Good luck

 

Most younger men I have sex with on a regular basis finally get bored that they have to share me with my own husband, it never has anything to do with sex, they just are uncomfortable and think they should be the only one I have sex with, so they immature I quess but I don't care because it's always easy to find another young stud bull who wants me