My arms and legs are too skinny, my skin too pale white, my cock leans to the left.
Therefore I like to go to a males only spa and walk around naked, showing myself in all my flaws to other men.
Then I feel better. Here I am, this is me. Lust away or look away.

 

@UnidentifiedCuriosity

I feel you. Sometimes I wonder "If I have this body type, would I be more attractive?" Of course these thoughts don't fester too long. It is important to acknowledge and move on from them. Overall, you're a beautiful woman and you have a husband that loves you.

 

My delightful ex husband was a domestic abuser he took great pleasure in letting me know how nasty I looked pregnant and how no one would want me as I am ugly. I learnt that it was his way of trying to stop my escape by making my confidence drop. However I refused to give him the satisfaction of winning and I love me and my body, yes I know it's not perfect but I am not after perfection I am after happiness and I have that now.

 

Own who you are and be comfortable with it. We all have issues with the way we look. My best was around age 28-29 I had very little body fat and was very well proportioned for my size as an amateur body builder. Fast forward 17+years I am in decent shape but much much more comfortable with my body now then I ever was because partly I don't care what others think and I am OK with all of my perceived faults. Quite a bit depends on how you carry yourself and the confidence you exude. I have seen people that may be overlooked by others come off as extremely sexy just by the way they carried themselves. Be real eat a pizza drink some beer and love yourself!

 

I am sorry that sounds horrible! I loved my wife pregnant I loved her fat I loved her skinny and everywhere in-between! Perfection is a disease when it comes to body image unless you follow each and every rule you will never obtain it so live and enjoy and if you don't look 21 anymore that is a good thing because chance are you were a dumb ass at 21 anyway LOL (well at least I was)

 

Same here beers are no good for me but I don't care!!!!

 

Yep. Pure dumbassery at that age lol.

 

Thank you, Shadow. My husband and I discussed this the other day. After hearing him say how hard it is for him, trying to boost me up and yet I refuse to listen, I've made a point to block out any negative thoughts that come to mind while receiving a compliment. And I'm going to try my damnedest to remember that no matter how many other fine asses my husband encounters every day, he comes home to this one for a reason. ;-)

 

Make him squirm, UC. Make him squirm

 

I used to be practically an exhibitionist, very proud. But the last 5 years I've had very bumpy skin all over my body. It's affected my confidence in so many ways. I even have a hard time fucking now, like some kind of mental thing. I've been told it's no big deal over and over but it still gets me.

 

Ha! I've always been hard as hell on myself. Like horrible to myself about my body. Looking back... I have no idea why. I was smokin hot. Now, 3 kids and hitting 30 years old, I kick myself every day still. Just not as hard of a kick. My husband loves me so I have been working on loving me too. Guess everyone gives themselves a hard time. It really is an uphill battle.

 

I'd like to say the older I get the less fucks I give about how I look, but that isn't quite true. I still try to dress sharp, stay in shape, and wish I had my hair back; but every year I seem to have a little more confidence independant of how I actually look. What I need to do is try to help my girl feel the same way, she seems to get more critical of herself independantly of how sexy she looks.

 

I have the same problem it is a mental illness and many men are like this but very very few admit

 

I love the way media shows what a man or a woman should look like. From the time of ancient Greece there were symbols of ideal physical form of the human body. Not trying to achieve it or even worse saying that those are unachievable standarts is just plain lazy and stupid. If you are fat and ugly well ofcourse it's easyer to cry about it on the internet rather than working to change that. I understand that some people are not capable of achieving these standarts due to health problems or genetics. But that does not give an excuse to not try. Honestly i feel like only Americans see this as a problem. Maybe because they are so easily offended by everything which hurts your unbelievably huge ego

 

Damn us sissy Americans

 

Being short and having a few visible scars are the things I think of mostly when being nude around others, especially in new settings. Once I am comfortable in my surroundings I don't think about it unless someone asks.

 

I am pretty self conscious, I used to be worse to the point I didn't want to leave the house. But after years of experiencing anxiety I've come to a point where I feel that life is just too short to be bothered by such trivial and pointless things. I'm still self conscious, but I don't "feed the beast" and make it worse now. I just avoid thinking about it or dwelling, I'm tired of wasting life caring about how I look, there's so much more important things to spend time on.

I also realized more clearly a lot of beauty standards are the result of good marketing through my line of work, i.e. anti ageing, anti grey hair, anti big nose or small lips, anti pale skin or very very dark skin, anti fat, etc etc etc. And to me that makes it all the more fickle, I don't need to abide by societal standards of what I feel is beautiful all because it's someone whose good at selling something.

Essentially, you need to break the mould and think independently outside of what you're told looks good or bad. Course, easier said than done, it's a process. But it's definitely a negativity that grows the more you allow it.

 

Thank you to everyone that has posted. While I'm still a bit down on myself, it isn't as prevalent.

Still have all my teeth, no bald spots or failing vision. Life is going well so far.

 

I think I'm fortunate in that I found self acceptance many years ago. I can't pinpoint exactly when or define exactly why. It was a gradual process and maybe its easier for some. I'm sure many people carry some body image issues to thier grave and the society around them didn't help.

The thing is... We've only got one life on this planet and we'll be long gone before any significant change so I do as most of us do and try to make an effort with my body in order to pass the superficial correctness of the day.

Mostly I cheat though. I also sell vanity for a living and I know how benefitial it is to look and feel good. If you can't change society in your lifetime, who wouldn't try and change themselves to enjoy it..?