All my partners fell out of The Gelato Lab.

 

Vanilla is the poorest choice when there's so much to choose from and although being placed there due to my wife's physical limitations I would never force it on anyone!

 

I suppose many of us have had a number of serious relationships and presumably we get better at communicating! Putting one's spouse into a sexual bubble of any composition is arrogant, presumptive and leaves no room for development. I guess most of us start off in vanilla/vanilla and develop from there. The main exception to this would be those that suffer early trauma!

As hinted to earlier........libido mismatch can cause all sorts of issues!

thinskin

 

I'm gonna call the wabulance, poor tortured souls.

 

Here it comes watch out

 

I thought mine was extremely vanilla...but I've found out the last couple years that he does have a certain level of freakiness. lol

 

What I am trying to say is we sit behind our k boards every night complaining about our spouses not fulfilling our needs.

I am sure there is to sides to every story, talk to your spouses, interact with them, go for a walk or see a movie, quit bugging the shit out of them for sex, ease up, let them make a move, just be romantic but not sexual. we all spend to much time on this site, its toxic if you use it, and say negative things about your poor toured life.

Get out and live! Quit dwelling on yourself in self pity.

Help the poor people in Syria or pull some weeds in your garden, just quit thinking so negative.

Do things to improve your quality of life, going online every night is a escape from reality, which is ok in small doses, but this site can suck you in and eat you up.

I AM JUST AS GUILTY AS THE REST OF YOU, THOSE ARE MY THOUGHTS, I'm going to try not to visit so much and dwell on stupid issues on some message board.
Sincerely legs.....I probably have offended every person on this thread but had to vent!

 

Legs is right......stop bitchin' and fuck someone!

It's Friday so going to buy some nice things from the market for the weekend!

Later............

Thinskin

 

I agree but it sucks you in when there is no sexual desire at home. when your have a high sex desire and your spouse has a very low desire and puts everything else before you. pets, kids, work, cleaning, TV. everything comes before your needs.

 

Take her upstairs and give her a good hard spanking!!

That will focus her attention!

Thinskin

 

Men are not that hard to please. Sex is incredibly important to us. At times it's our only desire and we will have it. If the woman we are paired with gives us loving and gives us sex, we're good. We will nurture, protect and honor that relationship to the end.

I've offered this personal advice here before. If your spouse shows no initiative for sex, be it man or woman, an accurate statement is "Why would I want to have sex with someone who does not want to have sex with me? I'll not ask again. If you want sex, let me know." If he (or she) does not get sex and loving at home they will, and should, find it elsewhere. It's nonsensical to 'foresake all others' and then have your partner decide that you will lead a sexless life. Constitutionally, that is cruel and unusual punishment. A sexless marriage is a dead marriage, just not buried yet.

As far as vanilla sex? Vanilla is a favorite flavor, it's the sprinkles on top that enrich the experience. When she leads you to the mirror and drops to her knees for a blowjob, that is exciting, satisfying, loving.

 

I disagree to some point... but everyone's timeline of "sexless" may ring differently. So did they not fuxk you for a couple weeks, months or years? How long makes it ok? And if that is someone's mindset why get married? Why sneak?

Back to communication and honesty is best....

But sprinkles is a great expression. I love that. Thank you.