I have feelings of depression, ie down mood, loss of appetite, sleeplessness, etc.. but I have also noticed that during these times I am also more sexually aggressive in my wants both here in a fantasy setting and in reality with my SO. I have not seen a doc for money reasons, but was wondering if any others here had similar issues..
There are some meds that I am on that do affect hormonal balances, but those cannot be changed...

 

I've been on antidepressants before and used to meet strangers for sex. I think it was all linked

 

Though I cannot relate as to the depression aspect in that I don't believe I have ever been, it may very well be that at such times your thoughts slow down enough that it gives your mind a chance to focus on natural physical urges and therefor amplify them, or at least allow you to simply take notice of them. Past that, if you're still fighting depression you need to find a way to visit your physician. The medications you're taking might need to be adjusted, or perhaps you need to address why you are depressed once again, in that you're constantly evolving and changing. What I can tell you for sure however is that you do not want to try and self medicate to balance things out on your own. Yes, it is your mind and body, and no one knows it as well as you, but, a physician has a lot of trial and error knowledge that can help, or at least know where to direct you to find the help you NEED.

Don't feel you must suffer with depression, or even the sexual urges you're feeling in that you wouldn't have asked here if they didn't concern you. Talk to a professional and let them help get you to a point where you are enjoying your life and your sexuality.

Hush....an alias

 

I think that there could definitely be a link between the two.

 

The two are for sure linked together. It is even mentioned in the medical litureture so Its not my own opinion. I can share at least two aspects of how they are linked. ( my own experience ). But first would like to give u an advice. The best and maybe the only treatment is sport. I know how fucking hard it is to force yourself but nothing else will help even the effects of regular sport will start to be pronounced after 3 months.

Psychiatrists will rob u to your last penny, drugs have a lot of side effects. They always use these words describing the drug, MOST PROBSBLY, It IS BELIVED and so on so the mechanism of action is not known. I have been there and I know. Fighting with depression for the last 12 years but almost out of the woods. Tried several meds for years. You do feel better but it's only temporary with drugs, you loose your libido, erection, get fat, and Susuptile to maniac episodes.

So don't feel more depressed for not affording a psychaiatrist.

 

My wife has been on anti-depressants for many years. She has been on many different ones. Almost all (if not all) have one side effect which is "reduced sexual desires". When you are on anti-depressants, you want to have sex less.

I think that it has something to do with the fact that the anti-depressants work on the same parts of the brain as the pleasure center, so you feel more satisfied, and happy, thus you don't feel the need to have sex to make you feel "happy" as much. That is my interpretation of the medical speak the doctor told us about 15-20 years ago when she had just started taking them. If that recollection is correct, that might explain the stronger sexual urges if you are depressed. Your body wants to satisfy the imbalance in the "pleasure centers" and you seem to get the most satisfaction from sex, so you desire to do it more.

 

damn right

 

I never had a reduced sexual appetite on medication, infact I regularly met with guys to be used sexually, but that was probably more to do with the mental side of depression than the drugs.

 

i find myself with those mental issues. the meds themselves just raise or slow my drive. either way it all ends depressively

 

The two aspects of sex drive link and depression are as follow:
1- low libido
2- engagement in risky habits which can be drugs or multiple sex partners and unprotected sex.
These two are linked together

 

Maybe the risky behaviour was to have more excitement to raise my libido? There was certainly a lot of sex with different people.

 

Sometimes we do things to extremes "to feel" or in the hope of, when we believe it is due to not feeling, or not feeling this way or that which is our problem. As said, I don't believe I have ever felt depression, however I have felt at times that there was something missing or that life was pale, faded, or subdued. For some I suppose that might translate as depression. For myself it always translated into a cue to make a change.

Hush....an alias

 

yes. I never looked to harm myself, although some of the guys I went with were just getting what they could out of me. But that is why I went in some ways

 

I had the exact same experience, amazing in that I have always had what you would call a healthy libido. Facing a major depression I became even more sexually needy and uninhibited. My doctors told me that is not at all uncommon, and has to do with seeking an endorphin high. Sweetie, it is completely normal, and you are not broken. The first step to a happy life is recognizing the symptoms when you are becoming depressed.

I never want to suggest avoiding sex, but realize that it can be an addiction like anything else. If you are addicted to the endorphin high, like other drugs you can require ever greater doses to find that high. The bottom line is that if you do not deal with the underlying depression, it can become destructive.

My advice is to please please please seek help, in that it is extremely difficult to escape a major depression on your own, and life is too short to spend it depressed. Please feel free to PM. I do have an idea what you are going through.

 

The libido/endorphin connection, yes.

 

A depressed person will always seek or at least at the beginning ways to feel better. As with respect to the human nature and our genetic code a person will look for behavior which gives fast euphoria like drugs or orgasm and something which is already tested and coded in the brain as a pleasure behavior which is sexual intercourse or related sexual behavior.


The risky behavior comes from the need to make use of every chance for sex. By that I mean inappropriate sexual partner, prostitutes and homosexual sex.


The low sex may have something to do with homosexual acts because in general it is easier to find someone of the same sex willing to go to bed on the first meeting than finding someone of the opposite sex.


A depressed person has low self esteem that's why he or she gets engaged in sexual acts which may not have though of in the past or may not have accepted on oneself. Having a low sex drive doesn't give you the same pleasure as when having healthy sex drive, the reason may be because of low endorphin release. On the other hand there is another hormone which plays and indirect role in pleasure which is ADRENALINE.


More adrenaline is released when you get involved in new behavior. Here comes the sexual deviation, you start getting involved in new fetish which makes you feel the high. Have low sex worth you get into deeper and risky sexual deviations like gang bang, drinking cum, unprotected sex and so on which many people would even thing that they can do anything like that. For males also being passive with another male will come in account. With time the depressed person due to low self esteem will start feeling better when he or she is dominated. It is some kind of self harm.

 

Multiple sex partners is more about the adrenaline rather than endorphins. As a child i was somehow forced into homosexual incest act and i hated it. Especially that i was forced to have sex with my brothers freiends and fought against it until i stopped it. When i fall in depression i found myself logging on gay chat. It was 6 or 7 years after i got free from homosexual incest. At the beging i was the dominant one on the meetings and with time i became more and passive and liked to be used.

 

Thanks everyone for making a lot of sense. It does make you feel better to know that others have had similar experiences and behaviour and it is understandable and not just stupidity.

 

I've just emerged from a 3 year battle with very deadly cancer. The chemo so strong any sex drive vanished.

Lately I have become curious to see how I may go. By myself or even seeing porn does nothing. I've been thinking I may just please others for a while and perhaps later....

It has left me a little depressed.