This weekend my husband and I were talking and he suggested arranging a gangbang. We have done some swinging in the past but I never tried this. We are both very open sexually and have done a lot of different sexual activities during our marriage. I am open to the idea but was wondering has anyone else here done this? I am sure there is with all the perverts on this site. Lol. Just want to know what the experience was like. How hard was it to organize? How you felt afterwards? I know it wouldn't effect our marriage since we have been with others but was it gratifying for you or did you feel degraded afterwards? He will be there and participating in it as well. We were thinking about 6 men to participate plus him. We belong to a swinging site and have seen people on there trying to arrange this but wondered is that the best way to go. Thank You all Shari

 

I've never done that but it does sound exciting

 

Having arranged one for my little-one I do have some suggestions.

1) Make sure you get to know all the people involved
1a) Everyone who had a turn at Elyse was a member of the local community who I'd known for years. If these aren't friends, then the following steps are highly recommended.
2) If you're not sure of their health status - condoms are not just a good idea
3) Unless they are friends - have it at a neutral location, no one is far from a hotel that rents by the hour.
4) Make sure you have an exit strategy if things start going downhill - maybe a couple friends on standby, bouncer type (big, not afraid to get their hands dirty, etc)

 

While a gang bang might seem like free-for-all sex, there are still some basic rules that need to be followed. I've been involved in a few orgies over the years and had many good experiences along with a few bad ones. Follow a few simple rules and a good time will be had by all.
DO make your seletions clear before hitting the bed. Most couples will meet at a bar or club before moving onto a hotel room. This is a good time to decide who you want to fuck and who you want to avoid. A little pre-sex flirting is a good way to express your interest. If someone is totally avoiding eye contact or doesn't seem interested in talking to you its a good sign that you shouldn't approach that person with your dick. If you are still unsure just ask "mind if I play through?"
DO make your rules clear up front. I have been involved in a hot and heavy situation more than one time when I am told "sorry, I'm only allowed soft swap". Nothing pisses me off more than being right at the moment of some good fucking only to be told no.
DO bring your own condoms. Group sex obviously involves sex with more than one person. One condom is just not going to suffice in this type of situation. Condoms should be changed between each partner. Running out or not having any is poor etiquette. Don't cut back on someone else's good time because you have to borrow a couple of condoms. Go ahead and purchase that economy pack, it will be worth it.
DON'T expect all the attention. While no one loves being the center of attention more than me, it's never a guaranteed position. Whether you are a porn star, MILF, or the girl next door, you still may not be the object of everyone's desire. If you walk into the door with this understanding you will have a much better time than if you expect it and don't get it. At the end of the night leave happy and satisfied rather than disappointed and sexually frustrated.
DO let your lips wonder. With naked bodies all over and a virtual live porn taking place right in front of your eyes, enjoy the moment by stealing a kiss from the hottie getting screwed next to you. Your sexual pleasure will heighten with the touch of more than one person at a time.
DO play with your spouse too. Nothing is sexier than seeing your significant other being pleased by another. Join in with them to make that moment more erotic for both of you. This also provides some sexy fuel to talk about during your own next hot session in bed.
DO wait patiently if you finish early. Not everyone can go for hours. Some men have been blessed with the ability to have sex for hours and the rest are probably on Viagra. In any case, someone has to finish up first. Take this time to relax and enjoy the show until everyone finishes.
DON'T ever assume sex. The point of an orgy is group sex, but never assume everyone is going to have sex with you. The best advice is to be upfront with your intentions, always be polite and respectful, and enjoy yourself.

 

I think you misunderstood, pretty lady. They're not looking at an orgy, they're looking to have her pull a train. At least that's my understanding.

 

same rules

 

I agree with the rules you put up for an orgy, but the two situations ARE different.

Orgy = multiple guys and girls coming together for a good time for all
Gangbang = one girl, multiple guys and she's nothing but convenient hole(s) for them

 

@ericats @DarkDom . I really appreciate all your input. We thought of people we know but I don't want my entire community to know I have done this. Lol. We live in small community and everything gets around quickly. I know I am a "slut" lol. but don't want my husbands buddys knowing this and their wives. Thinking a hotel with strangers and will screen best we can. Also condoms will be used first time. Just wondering how do you screen them and how to set this up? I know the swinging site we belong to has had many of these suggestions for their wives and most looked like never happened cause nobody showed. These were very attractive women also unless they canceled. Thank You Shari

 

Yes I know what the two situations are but the same rules apply

 

If you have any important boundaries or ground rules state them to the room clearly and while everyone is dead sober if booze will be involved. Before the relax and get into things phase. You might not want a dpda dpdv simultaneously, but its in porn enough that you need to say its a boundary, just as example.

 

At the end of the day, you are going to be used, thoroughly, to provide pleasure to a group of men. Not that you can’t benefit from that situation, but you are going to be used.

For me that is one of the exquisite aspects of a gangbang. The element of surrendering control to a group of horny, lust-charged men is very, very hot.

With that in mind, you’ll want to screen the participants. Health status is important, because juices are going to be exchanged, even if you start out with condoms. In real life a gangbang is not a controlled situation like a California porn movie.

For me, screening the participants for appearance, health, and hygiene is important - no ugly, stinky dudes need apply.

You’ll want also to be able to trust the participants not to injure you, and to do this in a safe place, where you can make an exit if need be.

It will change things between you and your partner. Irrespective of how you feel about being the center of attention, I’ve found that men either love this, and become addicted to the notion of seeing their partner used this way, or they feel wretched because of it, either insecure, or otherwise horrible for letting it happen. I had one boyfriend who wanted this, and a few minutes into the experience, he vomited and began to cry. Not exactly conducive to a hot sexy experience.

 

Well said hon

 

Thank you amyjoy. I figured I would be used but that excites me. I would be very specific on the men I chose. I appreciate your advise. Shari.

 

Three nothing wrong with being used. It also puts you at the center of attention. The constant sensations would be amazing, being tied and bound is very similar...

 

I have never done a gangbang, but when I was looking for sex with strangers I used fabswingers which was good because you can select people you like the look of, chat to them before hand, and read the verifications of others.

 

Thanks for the advice Splashgirl.

 

Hubby arranged the gangbang for tonight. Only 1 hour and 15 min away. Nervous and excited. Drinking some wine. Lol. Thank you for your advise. Curious to who is coming but he said I would not be disappointed.

 

3 mins!! Good luck hun! You let them do the work and enjoy yourself! Both of you! Have fun!

 

The suspense is killing us!!! We need an update... Hubby, FFS how is she doing? lol

 

Me too I want to know what happened how many etc