Hello all-

So I recently became a sub, and I am definitely new to the D/S game. I’m looking to do something special for my Dom for the upcoming holiday, but I was hoping to get some ideas.

Subs: what have you done in the past that has worked or hasn’t worked?
Doms: do you even want your sub going out of their way in Valentine’s Day for you? What are some things to avoid?

 

You do what you are told to do

 

eagerly lick his cum up off of a dirty floor

 

You're the sub. Your Dom doesn't care what you want.

 

Mine does

 

You can suggest or ask but you don't make the final decision ..... ever.

 

I've seen this, wear a collar give him the leash and go for a walk,

 

Yes as a sub you do what your Dom wants. It’s great to surprise him also! You can be in something fun and sexy when he comes home, you can offer something to him he’s not done before or to use you in a new way. Bring home another sub to play with. What would excite him?

 

You could send a card or some other form of adoration. Wear some sexy lingerie if he doesn't pick/choose your clothing. Cook him his favorite meal/desert or make yourself the desert on the table at his place sitting. Kneel at the door with a beer in hand naked while wearing your collar or leash in the other hand waiting for him to enter. Just some ideas if you hadn't done so already.

My former sub had made a bouquet of JD mini's and snickers bars my 2 faves once.

 

Well, @DaddyJ , thank you for your input, but my Dom and I are on the outs just in time for Valentine’s Day. Fuck me with a splintery rake! You wouldn’t happen to know any Dom’s on here that like a particularly difficult break and has good conversational skills?

 

Well, that didn't last long. I'm sure your mailbox will be filled with messages of varying conversational skills.

Splintery rakes are a different kind of kink.

 

Perhaps he didn't like her making decisions that are Daddy's.

 

Okay tone down the attitude @Anniemated, I’m not going after your Dom, and no, I didn’t get a slew of PM’s and I am a fucking woman so enough with the passive aggressive ‘she’. No one is taking your fucking man, I know how to mind my own fucking business I was just looking for some help. Damn. Way to be supportive

 

Before any D/s games procede there is a period of negotiation where limits are agreed and boundaries settled and you should throw in a safeword or two!

Once the rules of the game are established then enjoy yourselves.

Thinskin

 

Do make up your mind, she just said you'd finished with her ffs! You can't tell lies on here and expect people not to notice!

 

This type thing is what gives Sub/Dom relations such a bad name. Too bad more people does not understand the real type of communication and understanding that is needed and important in these type relationships. They should not be hurtful or confusing. They should be taken alot more serious.

 

I often receive inquiries from curious people exploring what they think is D/s.

The short answer is, it’s different for everyone.

Where that becomes a problem is when people insist on perpetuating the myth of dominance ‘breaking’ a submissive, and once that’s done - now I get to tell you what to do, always, for everything. Oh, and bend over, time for your spanking you naughty little girl. I hope you’ve got your jewelled plug in.



It isn’t all black and white photography and a automaton submissive.

Some of it could be, if that’s the dynamic. Sure.

In all my years I’ve yet to see that, but I guess it could be true.